SideWalk Ghosts / A Note About 365 From the DW/BFF

Hi Everyone, this is Richard’s DW /BFF.  I have been thinking about what I could do for Richard today on his last post for this leg of his 365 journey, but all that has come to my mind is the thought that I should let you know just how much this project has meant to him, and how much it has affected our family. The advantage of having access to the back-end of this blog makes it easy for me to do this without him knowing — I love surprises!

A little over a year ago, Richard started kicking around the idea of doing this project… he was seeking for a meaningful expression of his art, and after a late night 2am viewing of Julia & Julia (gotta love Netflix streaming), the genesis of the idea came together.  After about two months of hearing about it, I finally said to him, “Just pick a date and do it!”  He picked the date, but that date ultimately found him on the East Coast, second guessing, wavering…  but thanks to his flight home with a random, classic sitcom traveling companion, he made the leap and began his journey.

I will say that had I known (had either of us known), just how much of a sacrifice this project was going to take, I don’t think I would have pushed him to get going on it.  I think that is one of God’s true blessings to us — not always showing us just what the journey is going to entail, for if He did, we would never embark… but having embarked, we cannot turn back and despite the challenges that come our way, we come to the end and look back at  the journey with gratitude for the experiences and growth that are now forever ours.

I have not had the pleasure of meeting all the people that Richard has had the opportunity to meet — and yes, how did he put it?…I am a little more skeptical about walking up to total strangers and striking up a conversation… and asking them searching questions…and requesting that I  take their photo…and post it on my blog…  Richard is truly amazing to me.  I don’t have his gift for doing what he can do, however, I do believe in Richard’s quest.

Richard has always looked for the good in people — sometimes, almost to a fault  (thus we are getting hounded by telephone sales people these days because he could not help striking up a friendly conversation with one of the callers. Did you know Richard used to work telephone sales in the 80s…   wait for it….   selling…    wait for it…    nail polish and lipstick — over the phone!  No wonder he has a soft spot for telemarkers).

All kidding aside, Richard has always had a kind heart and this project has helped him take that love and belief in his fellowman, meld it with his talent as a photographer and allow him to create a meaningful expression of what he feels and sees.

Although Richard has been on the front lines of this project, the blessings have extended over all of us in our little family.Yes, I have been a cheerleader for him and pushed him on days that he was less than enthusiastic about getting out there, but I am no angel —  he is too nice to tell you about the days that I would have won the Grouchy-Complaining-I Wish You Did Not Have to Go Out and Meet Someone Today-Aren’t You Finished Writing That Award, and for that I am truly sorry 😦    But despite my sometimes less-than-perfect attitude, I have always believed in Richard and his vision of 365.

I have always believed that everyone is born with a light, a goodness within them. For many that light glows bright, but for many, sometimes because of choices, or life, or circumstances or whatever, that light can get a little dim, perhaps almost gone. For many, having someone just notice their light helps their light to grow.  That is what 365 is about, at least for me —  slowing down a little and taking the time to look for and nurture the light –in both ourselves and our fellowman.

So thank you, Sweetheart, for embarking on the journey, for taking us with you and for your amazing example of not giving up.  We are with you wherever Operation 365 may go. You are a light for us.

Love,

Terri and your DD
PS:  Oh, and by the way, that comment in your last post… “I can also carry an unintended aura of arrogance. Most of my friends don’t see it…”  I had to smile as I read that — your friends prefer to use the term “control freak,”  never say it in front of you, usually accompany their comments with a smile and an eye roll…  and we all love you still. 🙂

8 comments

  1. Terri – I am appreciative of your posting and am moved by the depth of the ‘light’ of your family and Richard’s ability to share that with all of us. I have often been moved by the notion that none of us will ever know or truly understand the depth of the difference that we make in another person’s life. While I do believe that is one of our gifts (the not knowing or understanding and doing it anyways), I also want to acknowledge that while many of us will provide words of gratitude and thanks we can never really express what it truly has meant and for that I hope your family can reflect and have a sense of it being way more than what you believe it is… All of you have touched us in ways that are immeasurable. I feel that I know your family from the postings as it was way more than Richard and his daily encounters… it was a slice of your daily life.
    I hope that someday in my life I have someone who reflects the depth of caring and support that you have for your partner as acknowledged in your post. It is not only a light that shows what is possible when you follow your passion but it is a light that emanates the energy and warmth of true love and respect. Thank you. Looking forward to caring on with this journey…. Theresa

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    • Dear Theresa — Thank you for your kind words and taking the time to write such a thoughtful comment. I believe the hopes you have for your life WILL come to you, and that they will be more rewarding and blessed than you ever imagined. — Terri

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  2. kevin Mc Donald #109

    congrats on making it to to finish line ,you have interviewed some colorful people , thank you for your hard work . i wonder ,do you still want to talk to strangers or are you happy it is all over ? thanks again Great luck on future assingments, & have fun #109 kevin

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    • Hi Kevin, You’re congratulations are most appreciated. The work has been very rewarding, and yes, I will not stop talking to strangers. I just won’t be doing formal interviews every day. But I promise you will still get to meet a new stranger with me at a more random pace. After all I have that cool camera kit that never leaves my side. Also, in the next couple of months I’ll be launching a new offshoot of “Project 365. It is called Operation-365, through it we will be able to hear the voices of many more people, allowing them to contribute. Stay tuned my friend.

      And I hope one day to stop by Quartsite.

      Richard

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  3. Gary Hunt

    “I have always believed that everyone is born with a light, a goodness within them. For many that light glows bright, but for many, sometimes because of choices, or life, or circumstances or whatever, that light can get a little dim, perhaps almost gone. For many, having someone just notice their light helps their light to grow. That is what 365 is about, at least for me — slowing down a little and taking the time to look for and nurture the light –in both ourselves and our fellowman”
    – Terrie ( Wife of Richard Radstone)

    Terrie, Richard wow, what a statement…. WHACK right between the eyes Powerful Stuff…

    Looking forward to the next 365

    Cheers,

    Gary Hunt

    PS Clicked on the 365 Donate … got a 404 page not found would like to donate

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    • Hi Gary,

      Gary, we too have been whacked in the eyes. It is really amazing how our lives have been enhanced by opening up to the world around us. We really are an amazing society of human. And as yourself, we all have great things to contribute. We also look forward to sharing the next evolution of 365 with you.

      Per the donation page… It is working now. There was a little programming bug on the back end. Thanks for bringing this to my attention.

      Take care my friend,

      Richard

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